What Will You Be When You Become Yourself?

What Will You Be When You Become Yourself?

What Will You Be When You Become Yourself?   What a question, right? What does “become yourself” mean anyway? Truth be told, I wasn’t really sure until just recently.  Perhaps it was the suddenness of losing Mom or the picking up and moving on so quickly because I felt like my family needed me, but it seems as though […]

Becoming Unstuck

Becoming Unstuck

Becoming Unstuck Losing Mom so early in life affected me in many ways … and many of which have carried with me into adulthood. One, in particular, sticks out for me this week … and that is my “stuckness”. Frankly, I am not even sure if “stuckness” is a word, but I am defining it […]

How are you … REALLY?

How are you … REALLY?

How are you … REALLY?   In the days, weeks and months after Mom died, I was asked by many people … “How are you?”  My early response was “I’m ok”. And although most people were likely confused by that statement, it stopped them from asking anything further. I very quickly figured out that it was easier to […]

The Big Sister (Part 2)

The Big Sister (Part 2)

The Big Sister (Part 2)   Last week, I shared the story of my brother Chris … but my Big Sister story certainly doesn’t end there …   A few years after Mom passed away, my Dad starting dating Sharyn and she had two sons: Steve and Andrew. Funny enough, I knew Sharyn, Steve and Andrew […]

The Big Sister (Part 1 of 2)

The Big Sister (Part 1 of 2)

The Big Sister (Part 1 of 2)   Shortly after I was adopted, Mom and Dad applied for a second child. Three years later, we were blessed as a family with the gift of Chris. According to Mom and Dad, I immediately went into Big Sister mode. There is a story that Dad tells where I […]

We are stronger together …

We are stronger together …

We are stronger together …   In the past several weeks, I have vulnerably shared some of my journey in moving towards the other side of Mom Loss … including my struggles, my triumphs and some of my story. I have written about my experiences in asking for and receiving help, seeing myself as lovable, re-connecting with Mom and bringing […]

She lives on in me …

She lives on in me …

She lives on in me …   I remember the first Mother’s Day without Mom, it arrived just a few short months after she died. When Mom was alive, my brother Chris and I would pick some flowers from her garden, make her a special breakfast and give her a homemade card and small gift. We would […]

Finding My Way Back to Lovable

Finding My Way Back to Lovable

Finding My Way Back to Lovable   In traveling down my own path of healing past pain to hope to happy, I recently learned the true meaning of and the difference between the words ‘loved’ and ‘lovable’.  It was one of those crazy ah-ha moments where all the years I spent wanting to be loved but never feeling fulfilled finally made […]

The Mother Tree and Her Daughters …

The Mother Tree and Her Daughters …

The Mother Tree and Her Daughters …   By the time I was 23, I was struggling mightily.  Most of friends had graduated college at this point, were starting their respective careers, and dreaming about their Cinderella weddings … just waiting for their prince to find them. I, on the other hand, had dropped out of […]

A Response to The Embrace of Gratitude

A Response to The Embrace of Gratitude

A Response to The Embrace of Gratitude   So here I sit … eleven days after launching the Mom Loss Survivors website and publishing The Embrace of Gratitude book.  Since then, I have been asked several times ‘How do you feel now that your site is up and the free digital download of the book made it to […]